Spencer James, an assistant professor in the School of Family Life at BYU co-authored a study with sociologist Paul Amato regarding happiness in marriage. James says,
"How the couple treats each other, despite their challenges, really matters. If couples respect each other, it's going to lead to a higher likelihood of resilience. That is, if they can see it as the spouse is doing something I don't like, not (he or she) has become something I don't like. When people feel contempt and don't respect each other, it's much harder to bounce back.
More thoughts on marriage from Alan J. Hawkins, associate director of Family Life at BYU:
Overcoming a hard problem in a marriage can be a unifying factor for couples. Deep respect for the institution of marriage, along with a strong sense of "we-ness," help a marriage endure. Other tools are effective communication skills, forgiveness of things big and little, and maturity. Engage in deep topics and do new things. Don't take your spouse for granted. Remember how important they are and what they do for you.
(From "The Case for Staying Married," Deseret News May 7, 2018)
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