Erin Stewart wrote last week,
"As I work on my own tendency toward criticism in my marriage, I noticed a few things that help keep me on track.
1. Assume the best. Rather than always assuming your husband or wife is being purposely thoughtless, why not err on the side of being too generous with your appraisal? I need to give my husband the benefit of the doubt. Just like I want a partner who sees the best in me and assumes I'm inherently a good person, I an give him the same measure of generosity.
2. Release control. Often I criticize my husband's way of doing things because it is different from the way I do it.
3. Find my own happy. I've found the times where I am the worst at nitpicking my husband are when I am unhappy with myself. My husband is not responsible for making me happy.
I hope that one day I don't have to try so hard to choose kindness over criticism."
(Taken from an article in the Deseret News 1-18-17)
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